It's not everyday that I get to write. As much as I love to write in my Blog, I really don't have the time. The title of my blog tonight was chosen by one of my Facebook friends, Joe. I asked for my friends to come up with a subject for me to write about tonight, and Joe won! Congrats Joe!
Let's face it, we all have people in our lives that we really just want to tell them to "Shut Up". Seriously, I know I do. I won't mention any names but how many times have you come across someone who just annoys the shit out of you and you just want to scream "No! YOU shut up"? The word "Shut Up" is so harsh sounding and it's not pleasant. But, we're all human and we all say it, or at least we have all said it. I never encourage my employees to shut up, in fact; I encourage them to be just the opposite. I want them to talk to me as much as possible. I want to know their ideas, their visions, their creativity and most of all their opinions.
Not too long ago, I was on a conference call and there were a ton of people on the phone and the person hosting the meeting told everyone to mute their phones. Here's how it went down "You all need to mute your phone and if you don't know what "mute" means maybe you should Google it and find out" Out of the blue in the faint background we hear a female voice say "Why don't YOU Google the word mute". She obviously thought her phone was muted - but it was not. I felt bad for the moderator and also for the person who said that in the background. As far as I know, no one knows who said it. I think it's best if we never find out. As I see it, she basically said "No! YOU Shut UP!"
Until Next Time,
Much Love,
Nikki
There has to come a time in our lives where we've "just had enough". Whether it be with our personal lives our how we deal with other people. For me, it's both. For so many months now, I have been contemplating a change. I knew I wanted to change some things about myself but wasn't really sure where to start.
First, I had to decide what it was that was bothering me. What was "it" I wanted to change? I started making a list of the things I didn't like about myself. For one, I am a jealous person by nature, I smoke, I'm a loner, I am constantly tempted to play on line video games, I don't get dressed up enough, I fear failure, the list goes on. I was really harsh on myself when I made this list. It actually hurt to think of myself in such a bad way.
I have a degree in Clinical Psychology, graduated top of my class, I'm smart... So how could I not understand what was going on in my own life? Why was I being so hard on myself? Do I deserve such mean words towards myself? No. I don't and neither do you. I'm here to tell you to stop it. STOP! When you get these negative thoughts in your mind visualize a stop sign in your mind and just say "Stop!" the thought will go away. What I've come to realize is what the problem was; my self esteem. Low self esteem can ruin anything and anyone at anytime...it comes from listening to our Ego.
The ego is something we all have and unfornatulety it tells us what we "want" vs. what we "need" and we don't "need" to batter ourselves. What we "need" is to learn to love ourselves. I know it's hard to "love ourselves" because we feel selfish in doing so. I know, because I was always told "not to love yourself" that that was being selfish and we should love others first. The truth is, you can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first. It's not being selfish to love yourself in the first place. If you don't show the world how great you are no one will believe it.
Post your notes around your house to remind yourself how great you are as a person. You can use the one's I use, they're here in the picture above. When you walk by your "notes" say the words out loud. I post my notes by my fridge, my bathroom mirror, outside my closet, the back of the front door so I can see it before I leave the house. These are little reminders to yourself that you're special, because YOU ARE. Keep the notes there as long as you need them, until you fully believe how wonderful you are. Subconsciously, your mind will register these thoughts and you will soon start to feel like the brand new shiny person you were meant to be.
If you're not like me, then please explain to us who are like me and let us know how you got to be so great. If you're like me, then join me in posting our "notes".
Until Next Time,
Much Love,
Nikki
